simple but effective
rebuilding your bond
and creating more
intimacy between you and your man.
Step one: Set some relationship goals
One of the quickest routes to relationship
reconnection is setting a mutual goal – one that
you can strive for as a couple. But we suggest
going even further and making the goals
about your relationship itself. Sit down together (try going to a cafe or quiet bar rather
than staying at home) and think about what
you would like to see happen.
Do you want to have more fun together? Talk
the way you used to at the beginning of your
relationship? Go out more? Expand your social
circle? Whatever you decide, write it down. This
can be your guide going forward for how to
really improve your life together – in a way that works for both of you.
Step two: Talk about what’s working – and
If you want to get your relationship back on
track, you’re going to have to talk about it.
Make a point of being honest about what is
working and what could use some improvement. Agree to continue doing the
things that bring you closer (and ideally do
them even more) and make an effort to change
what causes friction or stress.
Be gentle and listen to each other. This isn’t the
time to take jabs at one another. You’re in this
together to build a stronger connection and
improve what you have together. If you’ve
been frustrated with doing all the housework,
explain how it makes you feel (tired and like you aren’t working as a team). If he is
concerned with your lack of interest in having
fun together, take it in stride and use it to spur
you on to make your bond even better.
Step three: Bring back that loving feeling
A lackluster love connection doesn’t have to be
the end of the line. Most couples get into ruts or
hit snags so feeling a bit out of touch is normal.
The key to bringing that love back is to refocus
your attention on the positive. Stress, too many responsibilities and financial strain can cause
couples to start turning against each other,
rather than working as a team. Don’t let this
happen to you.
Focus on what you love about your partner
and think back to loving memories you can
draw on when you feel less than loving. The
more loving thoughts you conjure up, the
easier it will be to reconnect and start to boost