a businessman and his private conversation with his
girlfriend. Donald Sterling, real estate developer and
owner of the NBA’s Los Angeles Clippers, was caught
in an audio recording sharing his views on race and
The audio created an uproar over the past few days,
and culminated today with Mr. Sterling being banned
from the NBA and ordered to pay a $2.5 million fine.
While his views on race and society were very offensive
and harmful, what amazed me was whatwasn’ttalked
about. What wasn’t talked about was the fact that Mr.
Sterling is a married, yet unfaithful, man, living a very
public life with his girlfriend who was responsible for
the audio being recorded.
So to sum it all up: The woman he was having a
relationship with while married actually led to this
happening. To me, this is just another reason why it’s
so important to be faithful, showing just how
destructive being unfaithful in marriage can be.
Here are 7 reasons why you should never be
1) What you’ve worked for is destroyed
In Donald Sterling’s case, he had been the owner of
the Los Angeles Clippers for 30+ years. That has all
ended. Years andyears of work are now gone because
of a relationship he had outside of his marriage.
2) Your reputation is mud
Donald Sterling has had a checkered past when it
comes to racist views. None of those impacted him like
this debacle did,which again, at the center of it all,
was a relationship with a woman who was not his wife.
3) Your livelihood is uprooted
As a successful businessman, he may be able to
regroup, focus on other venture, and replace the
income eventually. But for 30+ years, he’s had access
to the buildings where his team plays, practices, and
operates from. There will be no more front row seats at
NBA games — or any seats for that matter.
4) Your family is negatively impacted
I don’t know if Sterling’s children were involved in the
business, if they had ownership stakes or not. But they
undoubtedly will be impacted by the now public
knowledge of their father’s views.
The intent may have been to prepare them to take
over the family business one day, but now that’s in
jeopardy. His wife
has also been forced into the spotlight to discuss her
husband’s views and relationship with another woman.
5) Your secrets get exposed
It was a known “secret” that Sterling had some racist
views, but nothing had ever been proven, at least not
on this level. As a result of his relationship with his
mistress, some of his deepest views and secrets were
m*de known to the world.
Many times those who are unfaithful believe they can
get away with being unfaithful. I believe truth will rise
to the top at some point. The Sterling scenario is a
great example of this.
6) The lives of those who depend on you are damaged
The Los Angeles Clippers had their most successful
season ever this year; they had a legitimate chance of
winning a championship. However after their boss was
exposed, they were blown out of their next playoff
Not only that, there were considerations of boycotting,
which would have impacted Clipper employees,
stadium workers, and a number of other people
associated with the NBA and Clippers organization. The
fallout from being unfaithful isn’t limited to those in
7) You gave your word to your spouse
All those reasons are good reasons to never be
unfaithful, but at the end of the day, they shouldn’t
even come into consideration. The most important
reason to never be unfaithful is because you gave your
word to your spouse.
You committed to be with him/her through good and
bad times, until death do you part. If we all honor our
word above other things, our lives and relationships
will be much better.
What has kept you faithful in your marriage?